Yaffa Family Law Group
By: Doreen Yaffa

10 Signs Your Marriage is Headed to a Divorce and What to Do

Divorce

Even though divorce rates had dropped in recent years, America’s divorce rate is still relatively high. If you notice any of these signs that your marriage is headed for divorce, there may still be time to do something about it.

1 – You are Unhappy
If one day you wake up and realize you can’t remember the last time you were happy in your marriage, you have a problem. It’s time to take a good hard look at what is going on and why you feel the way you do. Some things that might cause you to feel this way are if your partner becomes unreliable, critical, hostile, or withdrawn from you.

2 – You Live Separate Lives
If you live like roommates and not a married couple, this is a big indicator that the spark has gone out of the marriage, and perhaps both of you are preparing to live separate lives. If you live separately in the same house and it doesn’t bother you, that’s a bad sign.

3 – Sex and Intimacy are a Thing of the Past
You and your partner no longer share intimacy and haven’t had sex in a long time; this is another sign that there are underlying problems that need to be addressed.

4 – Interactions with Your Partner are Difficult
Disagreements are normal even in a healthy marriage, but if you feel like every interaction with your spouse is hard, and you start to respond with defensiveness, it’s probably a good indicator that more is going on than meets the eye.

5 – You Find Reasons to Avoid Your Spouse
Another common sign that a marriage is failing is when one party goes out of their way to avoid the other. Do you go out with friends or visit family when you know your spouse will be home so that you don’t have to be around them?

6 – You See a Future Without Them
Feelings change over time, but if you routinely picture a future without your spouse in it, you are definitely contemplating divorce even on a subconscious level.

7 – You or Your Partner Speaks to the Other with Contempt
If you or your partner speaks to the other with contempt, it could mean you are headed for a breakup. When things devolve to this point, healthy communication may be impossible.

8 – Criticism Has Become a Way of Live in Your Communication
Constructive criticism is helpful, but when one person constantly nags and criticizes the other, it destroys the fabric of the relationship. The other person responds with defensiveness until there isn’t much left to say.

9 – Subtle or Overt Changes in Behavior
You notice subtle or significant changes in yourself or your spouse’s behavior. Spending money without talking it over, a change in values, or suddenly making extreme life decisions may indicate your relationship is suffering.

10 – One or Both of You is Cheating
If either person is or thinking about cheating, your marriage is in big trouble. It’s time to take action and get professional help and see if you can repair things before it’s too late.

 

About the Author

Doreen-Red-366-e1576269917140-285x300 10 Signs Your Marriage is Headed to a Divorce and What to DoDoreen Yaffa, Board Certified Divorce Attorney Founder and Managing Partner of Yaffa Family Law Group. She is one of a handful of divorce attorneys in South Florida who is board certified in Marital and Family Law. Doreen Yaffa earned her board certification in 2001 and has remained a member of The Florida Bar in excellent standing throughout her career.