Yaffa Family Law Group
By: Doreen Yaffa

Monday Message: February 8, 2021


Changing Your Beliefs to Support the Best You

All of your thoughts and beliefs are shaped by your past. It’s your primitive brain repeating old thought patterns. For example, your primitive brain wants to stay in a marriage because that is what it knows. So when your spouse speaks about divorce or you consider it, knowing that the marriage likely has run its course, your primitive brain immediately chimes in to let you know it is not a good idea. You may have thoughts such as “Why leave when you never know if you will find someone new”, “He/she is not great but it is better than starting over” and on….

You can stop listening to your primitive brain now. You can believe anything you want.

Here is how you change your belief systems:

Step 1: Separate yourself from your thoughts.
Step 2: Observe your thoughts.
Step 3: Decide what you want to think, feel, and do. You can choose ANYTHING.
Step 4: Create new thoughts that support what you want.
Step 5: Transition from negative to neutral and from neutral to positive thoughts.
Step 6: Ask supportive questions (e.g.: How can I start believing in “XYZ”?).
Step 7: Practice the transitional neutral thoughts until you believe them.
Step 8: Move incrementally to the more positive thoughts until they’re your new beliefs.

This process works if you do it. Try it.


Wishing you an amazing week.

Doreen Yaffa

Board Certified Marital & Family Attorney, Life Coach

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