No matter what the circumstances may be, divorce is never easy. It is, ultimately, the end of something you once felt would last until the end of time. It’s understandable that you’re feeling upset, frustrated, angry, or hurt. However, these emotions can cloud your judgment and overwhelm you, muddying up the divorce process.
It’s important to keep a clear head throughout your divorce, as your partner will still be involved in your life—especially if there are children involved. A smooth divorce can help ease you and your partner into the next phase of your lives, allowing you both to look forward to everything that’s yet to come. It may seem impossible, but you, too, can have a smooth divorce. Here are a few tips to help guide you on your journey.
Cooperation Is Key
During the divorce process it’s natural to feel as though you want absolutely nothing to do with your partner, however the first step is to come to terms that the best way to handle your divorce is to work together with your partner. Consider that your divorce isn’t a battle. Instead, it’s a real chance for both you and your partner to start fresh. This starts with direct communication and cooperation with one another.
Communication and cooperation make divorce healthier for everyone involved; sitting down with your soon-to-be ex-spouse may not seem like the most pleasant task, but it is important that you talk through any problems or issues before they become worse. It can be hard to focus when your emotions are running high. When you’re calm enough, consider running through all of your key points and provide yourself with a script that you can then run through when talking to your partner. This will help you keep a level head throughout the entire divorce process.
Take Time To Think About Your Goals
When going through the divorce process, it’s important to think about two essential factors: your financial goals and your personal goals. If you go into your divorce expecting to win, you’re going to be sorely disappointed. Nobody wins in a divorce, which is why it’s important to do everything you can to work together so that you can reach the most peaceful solution possible so you can both enjoy a smooth divorce.
Be open and upfront about your financial situation. Detail all of your assets and debts as they currently stand. If you try and hide assets or move money from a joint account to a personal account, you could be looking at serious litigation down the road. That’s why we strongly recommend responsibly outlining every financial detail so that you can properly proceed towards the next stage of your divorce and ultimately towards the rest of your life.
Once you’ve reviewed the numbers, it’s important to think of your own personal goals for your divorce. Do you plan on staying friends with your ex, or just maintaining an independent coparent relationship? Do you plan on moving? How often should each parent see their children? These are just some of the questions you’ll have to ask yourself while going through the divorce process so that you’re ready for what’s to come in the next phase.
When Your Kids Are Involved
Many couples stave off their divorce for the sake of their children, however, may be the wrong thing to do. For one, you and your partner are unhappy with one another, which may lead to a toxic home environment for your children. In addition, staying together for the kids can result in them picking up on certain ideas about marriage that they could eventually apply to their own relationships later on in life.
The best thing you can do, after first consulting with a child therapist, is to determine how best to openly discuss your divorce alongside your soon to be ex with your children. They may likely be emotional, as the fear of the unknown can overwhelm them. Take this opportunity to carefully but honestly answer their questions and concerns, as this will help them come to terms with the situation and ease into this new phase of life.
Make sure to keep open lines of communication with your children from both parents, and work together on a visitation schedule that works for everyone involved.
Your children are stronger than we may think and may be better off in an environment where both of their parents are happy.
Count On Your Loved Ones
This is an incredibly difficult moment in your life, and as such you can’t be expected to tackle it all by yourself. Your trusted family and friends will be there to help comfort you during such a difficult process. Whether it be talking on the phone, going out to get dinner, or just hanging out with one another at home, it can help you overcome some of the negative emotions and energy you may have been feeling during the divorce process.
Count On Yaffa Family Law Center
Are you feeling lost during the divorce process? You’re not alone. The team at the Yaffa Family Law Center is here to help guide you towards a smooth divorce. As lawyers who only handle family law matters, we have the experience necessary to guide you through divorce towards the rest of what can honestly be an amazing life. Contact us today online or call us at (561) 276-3880 to learn how we can assist you.