Yaffa Family Law Group
By: Doreen Yaffa

Journaling Your Way Through Divorce


Please pay close attention to this phrase: “Bad chapters can still create great stories. Wrong paths can still lead to the right places. Failed dreams can still create successful people. Sometimes it takes losing yourself to find yourself.”

I’ve always admired people who kept a journal. I thought to myself “wow, they must have it all together and have the time to write.” I then often followed that thought with “who has that much free time?!” As an attorney with two young children, the thought of having enough free time to keep a journal seems like another thing to add to my to-do list that I do not have time for. But guess what? I did it. I bought a journal. No pressure. No need to write “dear diary, here is what I did today…” I bought a goal-centered journal that has prompts such as “today I am grateful for.” THAT I can do. That is something I SHOULD do every single day. Remind myself of all the things I have to be grateful for even when the list may seem short. And I can guarantee that your list will be even longer than you think.

Keeping some type of journal while going through a major life change, such as a divorce, is essential in my opinion. Even if you just write down, “today I hate my ex because…” at least you are writing it down and getting it out somehow. Maybe you exercise when you are stressed. Write down how far you ran or how long you rode your bike. Maybe you love to cook, but don’t have a cookbook of your favorite recipes. Start one. It doesn’t matter what is, just start somewhere. Get out of your own head and write it down. I promise you it will help!

For journal inspiration, visit this site: https://msrachelhollis.com/2019/04/11/how-does-the-start-today-journal-work/


About the Author

Ashley-Ackerman-e1576267027331-150x150 Journaling Your Way Through DivorceAshley Ackerman is an attorney with 8 years of experience working as an Assistant State Attorney for the 15th Judicial Circuit. Much of her time was spent advocating for victims of domestic violence. She has handled over 60 jury trials, with cases ranging from domestic battery to attempted murder.