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By: Doreen Yaffa

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Divorce

Navigating the Limbo of Separation: Understanding the Importance of Moving Forward

It’s a familiar story: three years ago, I moved out of the house I shared with my wife of 17 years. We still talk regularly and occasionally have dinner together. She continues to live in our family home, while I’ve recently bought a condo on the beach. We’re both dating other people, and life has found a new rhythm. But then, out of the blue, our kids asked me a question that caught me off guard: “Are you and Mom still married?”

This simple question forced me to confront the complex reality of our situation—living in a state of marital limbo. We are legally married, yet our lives resemble those of single individuals. For anyone in this position, it’s crucial to understand what it means and why staying in this limbo can have significant consequences.

Explaining Limbo to Your Children

When children ask about their parents’ marital status, it’s a moment that calls for honesty and clarity. You can explain to them that while you and their mom are still legally married, you’ve both decided to live separately and independently, almost as if you were single. It’s a candid way to help them understand without delving into the legal complexities.

However, it’s important to recognize that avoiding the finality of divorce doesn’t change the reality of your situation. Prolonging this state of limbo can create emotional, financial, and legal complications that only grow more complex with time.

The Cost of Indecision: Financial and Legal Implications

Many couples drift into long-term separation without officially divorcing, often underestimating the potential pitfalls. The longer you delay finalizing the divorce, the more tangled your financial and legal lives can become.

For example, the date of separation does not necessarily determine the valuation of marital assets. In Florida, the presumptive date for assessing the value of marital property is when the petition for dissolution of marriage is filed. This means that even if you’ve been separated for years, the growth of your assets during this period is still considered part of the marital estate.

Imagine that your pension was valued at $100,000 when you initially separated, but now, three years later, it has grown to $250,000. By not formalizing the divorce sooner, the increased value of your pension may still be on the table as part of the marital assets to be divided. Your indecision can have real financial costs, making it crucial to take proactive steps toward finalizing your divorce.

Addressing the Emotional and Legal Impasse

Living in a perpetual state of separation can also create an emotional toll. Limbo isn’t just a legal or financial issue; it’s a personal one. Unresolved marital status affects many aspects of your life, from taxes to new relationships, to your overall sense of closure and ability to fully move forward.

To truly reclaim your life and begin anew, it’s essential to recognize that the marriage, in its traditional sense, is over. Finalizing the divorce is not just a legal step—it’s a pivotal move toward personal freedom, allowing you to redefine your life on your own terms.

Consult a Family Law Attorney

Before making any decisions, consult with an experienced family law attorney who can help you navigate the complexities of your specific circumstances. An attorney can provide guidance on asset division, support obligations, and other crucial issues that need to be addressed in the divorce process.

Communicating with Your Children

As for your children, they deserve an answer that’s truthful yet sensitive. Only you know the right way to communicate your situation to them. The key is to reassure them that while the relationship with their mom has changed, your commitment to being a present and loving parent remains steadfast.

Moving Out of Limbo

Living in marital limbo can feel like a safe, comfortable place to be, but it’s ultimately a place of uncertainty. Avoiding the final steps of divorce may feel easier in the short term, but in the long run, it only postpones the inevitable—and potentially makes it more complicated and costly.

It’s time to end the limbo. Finalize your divorce, embrace the changes, and take control of your future. This is your opportunity to move forward with confidence, free from the constraints of an unresolved past.

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